Finally got the majority of my audio problems sorted out.
Ordered a headset for the Qtec 2020, which is basicly an XDA/MDA II .. I figured this might work on my XDA I on account of the devices being almost identical, so I figured same part.. and I was almost right. See picture below: 2.5mm audio jack is on the right side, the XDAII (top) covers it with a plastic.. uhh..cover.
I had to physicly cut and mangle off a piece of metal from the base, in order to make it it fit in the XDA I, but when it did, I had stereo sound, and a mic, for the first time in a while! The metal/plastic base I mean is shown above, its actually covering the mic input line on the 2.5mm jack.
But then I can into some kind of wierd buggyness in Media Player 8.5, that ships with PocketPC 2002 Phone Editition. The player, and sometimes the entire device kept crashing when I tried to fast-forward beyond 8 or 10 minutes on an MP3.
So I had a look at some free media players for the PocketPC, and have settled on GSPlayer, which is pretty feature rich and works quite nicely. I downloaded a couple others but I see no reason to change in the near future, this player will handle even the longest podcasts, like yesterdays Trade Secrets! (jees! 2 hours!)